Answer: It’s very common to experience strong emotions during mediation, especially in a case involving injury or loss of a loved one. Please don’t feel embarrassed or worry if you become emotional – mediators understand this is normal and part of the process. In fact, showing genuine emotion can remind everyone (including the mediator and the other side) of what’s at stake and why this matters so much to you. Mediators are typically very patient and empathetic listeners. They know that you may be dealing with grief, anger, or stress related to what happened to your parent. A good mediator will give you space to express those feelings, or take a moment to collect yourself if needed.
If you feel tears coming or you get upset, that’s okay. Take your time – breathe. You can always ask for a break at any point. For instance, you and your lawyer can step out of the conference room or pause the Zoom and turn off your camera for a few minutes. We can walk around the hallway, get some fresh air, or just have a private moment to talk. Your attorney is there not just for legal support but emotional support too; we truly understand why this is painful and we will be there to comfort and steady you.
Sometimes, emotions can actually help the process by showing how deeply this has affected you (which can indirectly encourage the other side to be more serious in their offers). But we also don’t want you to feel overwhelmed. If you need to cry, it’s okay to cry – better out than in. If you’re angry, it’s okay to vent privately to your lawyer about it. We’ll work through it together.
Remember, mediation is confidential and informal, so you’re not being judged by a jury or recorded on a transcript. Being human is allowed. The mediator might even say something compassionate or offer their condolences if, say, the case involves the loss of your parent – they often acknowledge the emotional aspect before focusing on negotiation. This is a sign they understand your hurt.
In short, don’t worry about getting emotional – it’s expected. We will take breaks as needed. Keep in mind your loved one and why you’re there; that can also empower you. By the end of mediation, many clients feel a bit emotionally drained (it’s an intense experience), so consider having someone or something relaxing to go home to after (like a loved one to talk to or a planned rest). But during the mediation itself, you have permission to feel. Your lawyer and the mediator will handle the situation with care. You are among people who deal with emotional cases regularly, and they’ll treat you with respect and understanding.