Answer: You’ll want to dress comfortably but respectfully. Mediation is not as formal as a court hearing – there’s no judge or jury – so you don’t need to wear a suit and tie (though you can if that makes you feel confident). A good guideline is business casual attire. For example, nice slacks or khakis and a collared shirt, or a blouse and dress pants or a modest dress, are all fine. You want to appear respectful to show you take the process seriously, but you also want to be comfortable enough to sit for a few hours. If it’s via Zoom from home, you could even wear a nice shirt and have more casual clothes below the camera view – just be careful if you stand up! The key is: no need for formal court clothes, but avoid overly casual items like ripped jeans, tank tops, or graphic T-shirts. Dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and confident.

As for what to bring: you generally don’t need to bring a lot of documents or evidence – your lawyer will have already provided the mediator with necessary information in a mediation brief. That said, here are a few practical items you might consider bringing:

  • Notepad and pen: It can be helpful to jot down thoughts, questions, or things you want to remember during the mediation. You might also write down offer numbers as they change so you can keep track.
  • Comfort items: If you wear glasses, bring them. If you think you might get cold, bring a sweater or jacket (conference rooms can be chilly). If you have any medication you need to take, have it with you.
  • Snacks or water: We don’t know exactly how long we’ll be there. Often the mediator or host will provide water, coffee, or light snacks, but it’s wise to have a bottle of water and maybe a light snack (like a granola bar) in your bag, especially if a lunch isn’t provided. You want to keep your energy up.
  • Picture or memento of your loved one (optional): This isn’t required, but sometimes having a photo of your parent (if the case involves your parent’s injury or memory) can be emotionally supportive for you, or even something you might show the mediator if you want to personalize the case. Only do this if you feel it’s helpful; your attorney can advise if presenting it is appropriate.

Importantly, bring yourself and try to arrive (or log in) on time. If in person, make sure you know where to go (we’ll provide you the address and any parking info). If by Zoom, have the link handy and test your computer or device beforehand. Also, bring patience and an open mind – those are intangible but important things to “bring.”

And don’t forget: we will have a prep meeting before, so if there’s anything specific you think you should bring (like a particular document or piece of evidence you have), your lawyer will let you know in advance. Generally, though, the heavy lifting (documents, evidence, legal arguments) is handled by the attorneys. Your job is mainly to be present, attentive, and ready to make decisions with your attorney’s guidance.